https://www.somapoetica.comRSS Feed for Taylor Neal - Somatic SexologistenWed, 27 May 2026 00:00:00 +0100https://www.goodvibesclinic.com.au/blog/2026/5/24/the-embodied-approach-understanding-somatic-sexology-with-taylor-nealAs a somatic practitioner, the most common (and most obvious) question I get is “What the heck is somatics?” The assumption before we chat about it is often that it’s some sort of new-age-y alternative healing modality, and often folks look at it and say “that’s not for me” based on this impulse to lump somatic work in with the “woo-woo,” more spiritual modalities they associate with long wool capes, crystals, and tarot cards. But the funny thing is that all people are already having somatic exp...Wed, 27 May 2026 00:00:00 +0100https://www.goodvibesclinic.com.au/blog/2026/5/24/the-embodied-approach-understanding-somatic-sexology-with-taylor-nealhttps://happieholl.com.au/blogs/news/the-ultimate-guide-to-anal-aftercare-what-your-butt-needs-after-a-good-time?utm_campaign=feed&utm_medium=referral&utm_source=later-linkinbioBy Taylor Neal   For many, the quality of aftercare received from our partner(s) can greatly impact our openness and/or desire to engage in future sexual experiences with that person(s), and this can include ourselves.  If we’re left feeling sore, unsettled, exposed, vulnerable, shameful, ignored, or abandoned, after sexual experiences without tending carefully and attentively to our needs and the needs of our lovers, the sexual experience as a whole can feel tainted. We might end up feeling a l...Tue, 12 May 2026 00:00:00 +0100https://happieholl.com.au/blogs/news/the-ultimate-guide-to-anal-aftercare-what-your-butt-needs-after-a-good-time?utm_campaign=feed&utm_medium=referral&utm_source=later-linkinbiohttps://www.goodvibesclinic.com.au/blog/2026/3/7/the-pleasure-revolution-a-brief-history-of-womens-sexual-liberationIt’s Women’s Day, so naturally I can’t help but thinking how we got to wear we are as women in regards to sexuality and pleasure. Being a woman working at a woman-owned Sex & Relationship Therapy clinic with all women practitioners, I can’t help but look around me at the sexual wellness landscape in the western world and consider the women that came before us, and the women that came before them, that made it possible for such a marvellous thing to exist as it does in some countries today. The b...Sun, 08 Mar 2026 00:00:00 +0000https://www.goodvibesclinic.com.au/blog/2026/3/7/the-pleasure-revolution-a-brief-history-of-womens-sexual-liberationhttps://www.goodvibesclinic.com.au/blog/2026/3/7/the-pleasure-revolution-a-brief-history-of-womens-sexual-liberationIt’s Women’s Day, so naturally I can’t help but thinking how we got to wear we are as women in regards to sexuality and pleasure. Being a woman working at a woman-owned Sex & Relationship Therapy clinic with all women practitioners, I can’t help but look around me at the sexual wellness landscape in the western world and consider the women that came before us, and the women that came before them, that made it possible for such a marvellous thing to exist as it does in some countries today. The b...Sun, 08 Mar 2026 00:00:00 +0000https://www.goodvibesclinic.com.au/blog/2026/3/7/the-pleasure-revolution-a-brief-history-of-womens-sexual-liberationhttps://www.pleasurechest.com.au/blogs/what-s-in-the-chest/what-makes-a-good-lover-3-themes-we-heard-from-youIn the lead up to Valentine’s Day, I set out on the streets of Sydney to ask folks what makes a good lover.  As a sex therapist, I had a couple of ideas going into this day of street interviewing, though I was also very curious what would come up for folks in the moment. What’s on the top of people’s minds when they think about their ideal lover? I wondered if there would be discussion of certain techniques, elaborate date nights, gifts, or this dream many folks have that their lover will “just...Tue, 03 Mar 2026 00:00:00 +0000https://www.pleasurechest.com.au/blogs/what-s-in-the-chest/what-makes-a-good-lover-3-themes-we-heard-from-youhttps://www.pleasurechest.com.au/blogs/what-s-in-the-chest/new-year-new-pleasure-6-ways-to-upgrade-your-sex-life-in-2026New year, same body, but a whole new opportunity to bring more presence, intention, and alignment into how you experience pleasure.  As a sexologist, I can tell you this: great sex isn’t about performing better, lasting longer, or copying what you saw online.  Great sex is firstly about deep listening - to your body, to your desires, and to your partner.  It’s also about awareness, communication, curiosity, and giving yourself permission to feel good, over and over and over again, because it’s s...Mon, 02 Feb 2026 00:00:00 +0000https://www.pleasurechest.com.au/blogs/what-s-in-the-chest/new-year-new-pleasure-6-ways-to-upgrade-your-sex-life-in-2026https://www.goodvibesclinic.com.au/blog/2025/12/17/6-somatic-tools-for-grounding-during-the-holiday-seasonThe holiday season can be many things at once.For some people, it’s cozy, meaningful, and genuinely joyful. For others, it’s busy, stimulating, and just a bit more than their nervous system has capacity for. And for most of us? It’s a mix, somewhere in between: moments of connection, laughter and joy, sprinkled with long lines, loud rooms, sugar crashes, and calendars that suddenly look very full and extremely social.From my perspective as a somatic practitioner, the best way to navigate the hol...Wed, 17 Dec 2025 00:00:00 +0000https://www.goodvibesclinic.com.au/blog/2025/12/17/6-somatic-tools-for-grounding-during-the-holiday-seasonhttps://www.goodvibesclinic.com.au/blog/2025/11/9/pleasure-based-guide-to-touching-the-penisPleasure-based touch focuses on sensation and connection, not on getting somewhere fast. A few key principles:Below are examples of strokes and touch qualities that can help explore and expand pleasure. These can be used during partnered touch or for self-exploration.Place your hand gently around the penis without moving. Feel the temperature, texture, and subtle pulsations. This can be surprisingly intimate and grounding, helping both giver and receiver tune in before movement begins.Use a slow...Mon, 10 Nov 2025 00:00:00 +0000https://www.goodvibesclinic.com.au/blog/2025/11/9/pleasure-based-guide-to-touching-the-penishttps://media.journoportfolio.com/users/239938/images/cd79816f-0bff-44f9-a955-9c4bac6170f1.jpegFri, 31 Oct 2025 00:00:00 +0000https://media.journoportfolio.com/users/239938/images/cd79816f-0bff-44f9-a955-9c4bac6170f1.jpeghttps://bonjibon.com/blogs/magazine/how-we-experience-desire-a-closer-look-at-context-and-where-desire-comes-from-1One of the most common things folks present with in my clinical sex therapy practice is the experience of “low desire.”  Low desire can loosely be defined as experiencing levels of sexual desire that are believed to be below “normal” or average, which is usually measured against a perceived societal norm. This experience of perceived low desire often leaves us feeling like there’s something wrong with us, like we’re broken, and quite often, like we’re a disappointment to our partners when we’re...Thu, 16 Oct 2025 00:00:00 +0100https://bonjibon.com/blogs/magazine/how-we-experience-desire-a-closer-look-at-context-and-where-desire-comes-from-1https://www.sexfluent.ca/blog/how-does-consent-feel-in-your-body1. Find yourself a space where you won’t be interrupted for at least 10-15 minutes Spend some time with your “No” and then zoom your awareness out, back into the space you’re in, and take a moment of stillness just to integrate what you learned.2. Get comfortable in a position you can hold for this amount of time, where you feel safe, supported and cozy lose your eyes, and take a moment to feel for what’s underneath you, the support of the surface below you. 3. Tune into your breath, without try...Thu, 16 Oct 2025 00:00:00 +0100https://www.sexfluent.ca/blog/how-does-consent-feel-in-your-bodyhttps://www.sexfluent.ca/blog/how-not-to-become-a-hot-mess-when-you-have-a-crushThe way that having a crush seems to add a little sparkle to our worlds—even for a moment—often has us getting excited about the little things, like seeing their name pop up on our phones, those little glances they give us from across the room, creating playlists for them, and sharing parts of ourselves that we might not otherwise give much air-time to in our day-to-day lives.Crushing inspires us to reconnect with things that make us unique. It also inspires us to notice and find joy in the smal...Thu, 16 Oct 2025 00:00:00 +0100https://www.sexfluent.ca/blog/how-not-to-become-a-hot-mess-when-you-have-a-crushhttps://tnzzl.substack.com/p/orgasm-is-a-desire-pathHave you ever seen a desire path? They can tell us a lot about how our brains work, using this thing called Neuroplasticity. A desire path is defined as:Sun, 12 Oct 2025 00:00:00 +0100https://tnzzl.substack.com/p/orgasm-is-a-desire-pathhttps://www.goodvibesclinic.com.au/blog/2025/7/29/why-we-need-representation-of-kink-and-how-it-helps-us-understand-desireThere’s been a lot of conversation lately about kink in pop culture, especially in the wake of Sabrina Carpenter’s Man’s Best Friend album cover, and whether it’s empowering, degrading, feminist, or “just for the male gaze.” But the very fact that we're talking about it is exactly why this kind of representation matters, how talking about sexuality forces us to get curious about our own internalised beliefs and narratives.For those of us that don’t know what I’m talking about, the popstar Sabrin...Wed, 30 Jul 2025 00:00:00 +0100https://www.goodvibesclinic.com.au/blog/2025/7/29/why-we-need-representation-of-kink-and-how-it-helps-us-understand-desirehttps://tnzzl.substack.com/p/being-human-and-wanting-sexBefore we can explore more pleasure and connection during sex, we first have to be able to get it going somehow, and this always means someone has to initiate.Initiating sex is one of the most common challenges I hear from clients in session.What comes up a lot when it comes to initiating it seems, is the inherent vulnerability wrapped up in initiating. To initiate sex is to let your partner(s) in on your desire, to make them aware of what you're thinking/feeling/wanting in that moment. In a wor...Mon, 14 Jul 2025 00:00:00 +0100https://tnzzl.substack.com/p/being-human-and-wanting-sexhttps://www.somapoetica.com/articles/how-to-initiate-embracing-your-cringe/Mon, 14 Jul 2025 00:00:00 +0100https://www.somapoetica.com/articles/how-to-initiate-embracing-your-cringe/https://www.sexfluent.ca/blog/heres-whats-mising-in-the-consent-conversationBut even if we know what consent is, it’s still pretty common for our understanding to stay in our heads, rather than in our bodies.A lot of the time, consent is taught as something we talk about. One person asks for something, the other says yes or no, and that’s it. We’ve had the conversation, and we move on to whatever’s next.It’s also something we feel in our bodies. It’s a full-body experience—something that goes way beyond just saying yes or no. When we only think about consent in a mental...Tue, 17 Jun 2025 00:00:00 +0100https://www.sexfluent.ca/blog/heres-whats-mising-in-the-consent-conversationhttps://www.goodvibesclinic.com.au/blog/2025/5/19/your-breath-is-your-best-sex-toy-heres-why?fbclid=PAQ0xDSwKZ0idleHRuA2FlbQIxMQABp1HSJ1VhxoA_POE0067ViyvvfI1EFC241fyjGfvqvDtXavv-6gcG7Z9HNaJf_aem_ktyyfQUalvaWIjeDSjTE-gSometimes I feel like a broken record with clients for how often I find myself discussing the usefulness of the breath. It’s one of those things that we all already know on some level, and yet rarely do we actually stop and breathe when it could be incredibly useful to us in life, and in sex. It sounds obvious, “take a deep breath,” when we’re feeling overwhelmed, anxious, rushed or frustrated, and yet, how often do you actually do this in a day? How often during sex do you take the time to inte...Tue, 20 May 2025 00:00:00 +0100https://www.goodvibesclinic.com.au/blog/2025/5/19/your-breath-is-your-best-sex-toy-heres-why?fbclid=PAQ0xDSwKZ0idleHRuA2FlbQIxMQABp1HSJ1VhxoA_POE0067ViyvvfI1EFC241fyjGfvqvDtXavv-6gcG7Z9HNaJf_aem_ktyyfQUalvaWIjeDSjTE-ghttps://lustery.com/pov/article/why-do-i-have-better-sex-with-strangersEver have better sex with strangers than with your partner? A sex therapist explains why and how to use these same erotic factors with a long-term partner. Ever have better sex with strangers than with your partner? A sex therapist explains why and how to use these same erotic factors with a long-term partner.Thu, 15 May 2025 00:00:00 +0100https://lustery.com/pov/article/why-do-i-have-better-sex-with-strangershttps://media.journoportfolio.com/users/239938/images/1f0addb5-78e3-4c72-81e9-c83e45df4c2b.jpegWed, 14 May 2025 00:00:00 +0100https://media.journoportfolio.com/users/239938/images/1f0addb5-78e3-4c72-81e9-c83e45df4c2b.jpeghttps://media.journoportfolio.com/users/239938/images/4d121942-3d84-46ec-a15f-3fb3c1dabe7b.jpegWed, 14 May 2025 00:00:00 +0100https://media.journoportfolio.com/users/239938/images/4d121942-3d84-46ec-a15f-3fb3c1dabe7b.jpeghttps://media.journoportfolio.com/users/239938/images/083cc960-c40d-4f6f-badb-31ff93b48c7d.jpegWed, 14 May 2025 00:00:00 +0100https://media.journoportfolio.com/users/239938/images/083cc960-c40d-4f6f-badb-31ff93b48c7d.jpeghttps://media.journoportfolio.com/users/239938/images/aa13e85b-edfe-4eef-b90f-2cb7adb6d61e.jpegWed, 14 May 2025 00:00:00 +0100https://media.journoportfolio.com/users/239938/images/aa13e85b-edfe-4eef-b90f-2cb7adb6d61e.jpeghttps://media.journoportfolio.com/users/239938/images/1af61743-2b0d-42cd-91b5-4530e5030439.jpegWed, 14 May 2025 00:00:00 +0100https://media.journoportfolio.com/users/239938/images/1af61743-2b0d-42cd-91b5-4530e5030439.jpeghttps://www.goodvibesclinic.com.au/blog/2025/5/5/balancing-effort-and-ease-how-to-support-meaningful-change-in-therapyMany of us have a strained relationship with effort and ease. We long for ease — we crave rest, spaciousness, and relief — and often structure our lives around the hope that it will come after we’ve done enough. Ease becomes the light at the end of the tunnel: the reward for hard work, the promise that keeps us going. And yet, we often find ourselves stuck in a relentless state of exertion. No matter how much we push, ease seems to remain just out of reach — because there’s always something more...Mon, 05 May 2025 00:00:00 +0100https://www.goodvibesclinic.com.au/blog/2025/5/5/balancing-effort-and-ease-how-to-support-meaningful-change-in-therapyhttps://www.sexfluent.ca/blog/what-can-diversity-in-porn-teach-you-about-yourselfWhen we’re looking toward Ethical Porn, we’re able to see a lot more diversity across all areas—from the genders and bodies we’re seeing on screen to the camera angles and actual directors, as well as the types of content we’re seeing. If you’re just using porn to get the job done, and not feeling great about using it either, you’re far less likely to spend time actually getting curious about what types of porn do what to your body, and what it is you’re seeing that is actually turning you on. I...Mon, 21 Apr 2025 00:00:00 +0100https://www.sexfluent.ca/blog/what-can-diversity-in-porn-teach-you-about-yourselfhttps://www.sexfluent.ca/blog/what-can-you-learn-from-watching-ethical-pornPorn has a very specific place in most of our lives: we watch it solo for the purpose of masturbation, and then once we’ve gotten where we wanted to go, we close all tabs and delete all search history and leave no trace of what we were watching for anyone to find.‍‍Most of us have a couple key search terms we use the majority of the time when accessing porn as well, and these are usually the things we know will do the job for us, our tried and true porn go-to’s.Because of this, it often means we...Mon, 21 Apr 2025 00:00:00 +0100https://www.sexfluent.ca/blog/what-can-you-learn-from-watching-ethical-pornhttps://www.sexfluent.ca/blog/4-ways-to-strengthen-body-literacyIf you read our previous blog on “What Is Body Literacy”  you’re probably thinking, “Okay, great, I’m down to get to know my body better, but how the heck do I do it?”If we use small, simple body-based practices throughout our day more often, when it comes to sex and intimacy, we’ll already have developed some habits that strengthen our body-mind connection.Here are some practices for developing more body literacy in your existing daily routine:Whenever you have a moment in your day, whether fir...Mon, 31 Mar 2025 00:00:00 +0100https://www.sexfluent.ca/blog/4-ways-to-strengthen-body-literacyhttps://www.sexfluent.ca/blog/dont-ghost-you-body-listen-to-your-body-cuesBody literacy is one of the oldest forms of human intelligence. We all know how to tell when we have to pee, when we’re hungry, when we’re thirsty, hot, cold, tired, relaxed. We all have some sense of what it’s like to receive a bodily cue and interpret its meaning.Many of us also know what it’s like to receive a cue from our body, perhaps that we’re hungry or tired, but rather than listen to that cue and giving our body what it needs, we ignore the information our body has given us and push thr...Wed, 12 Mar 2025 00:00:00 +0000https://www.sexfluent.ca/blog/dont-ghost-you-body-listen-to-your-body-cueshttps://bonjibon.com/blogs/magazine/sensuality-is-for-men-too-1**Note to the reader: When I use the term “men” in this article, I am referring to cis-het, traditionally masculine men, though this conversation can apply to anyone struggling with their relationship to masculinity and the “Act Like A Man Box.” Before we dive into the men of it all, let’s first take a moment to celebrate where we are.  Women and queer people have been working their butts off for generations to get to where we are when it comes to sexual health and wellness accessibility. We’ve...Fri, 07 Mar 2025 00:00:00 +0000https://bonjibon.com/blogs/magazine/sensuality-is-for-men-too-1